I think you hit it with your closing remarks that the real drive is to be needed, valued, and useful. Which ties right in to your observation of the fear of public speaking, which is not really the fear at all. It's the underlying fear of humiliation and the prospect of being cast out of the tribe that is so debilitating. Because if we're shunned we are truly not needed, valued, or useful.
Thanks Rick for connecting those dots. It strikes me as deeply ironic the paradoxical connection between the desire for exceptionalism and the need for belonging.
I think you hit it with your closing remarks that the real drive is to be needed, valued, and useful. Which ties right in to your observation of the fear of public speaking, which is not really the fear at all. It's the underlying fear of humiliation and the prospect of being cast out of the tribe that is so debilitating. Because if we're shunned we are truly not needed, valued, or useful.
Thanks Rick for connecting those dots. It strikes me as deeply ironic the paradoxical connection between the desire for exceptionalism and the need for belonging.
agreed. it's part of the divine comedy