I have found as I age the "letting the dust settle" on my reactivity is perhaps the single most important commitment I can honor in terms of staying connected to both myself and to others. My reptilian brain just doesn't operate with perspective in the moment, and even a small distance of time from an upset confers a remarkable amount of the kind of reconciliation you're promoting here.
Thanks for sharing your experience, Rick. Your comments seem to foreshadow the next element in the sequence I plan to cover.
Yeah, I'm guessing the reptilian brain simply doesn't really have the capacity to take perspectives other than the immediacy of dealing with the threat of the situation, but I'm certainly grateful for it when SHTF.
While I'm probably getting ahead of myself, there's probably a connection between states, stages and quadrants.
While perhaps both states and stages open up access to higher order perspectives, states can also bring us right down to lower stages too though I understand stages as slightly more durable for longer timeframes while states are more transient.
Let's use anger as an example -- I would surmise that it is quite difficult to shift perspective or engender empathy without dissolving that angry state.
I have found as I age the "letting the dust settle" on my reactivity is perhaps the single most important commitment I can honor in terms of staying connected to both myself and to others. My reptilian brain just doesn't operate with perspective in the moment, and even a small distance of time from an upset confers a remarkable amount of the kind of reconciliation you're promoting here.
Thanks for sharing your experience, Rick. Your comments seem to foreshadow the next element in the sequence I plan to cover.
Yeah, I'm guessing the reptilian brain simply doesn't really have the capacity to take perspectives other than the immediacy of dealing with the threat of the situation, but I'm certainly grateful for it when SHTF.
While I'm probably getting ahead of myself, there's probably a connection between states, stages and quadrants.
While perhaps both states and stages open up access to higher order perspectives, states can also bring us right down to lower stages too though I understand stages as slightly more durable for longer timeframes while states are more transient.
Let's use anger as an example -- I would surmise that it is quite difficult to shift perspective or engender empathy without dissolving that angry state.
Yes, glad I made the comment and triggered your reply because it helps clarify the distinction between stages and states for me.